In the last few days, I've been reminded of three friends who are mourning losses. Two have done so for a matter of years and one only a few months. All three live in different parts of the world. All three are writers.
Does this mean that writers suffer losses more than non-writers? Not at all. It's more likely attributed to the fact that I have many friends who also happen to be writers. As much as we hate to admit it, loss is a part of life, and the older we get, the more we must deal with it.
As a friend of one who is moving through the journey of losing a loved one, we cannot heal them. We cannot change the event, but we can show moral support through a phone call, a letter or card, perhaps an e-mail. And it's not necessary to dwell on what happened. They know all too well what happened. The sometimes over-used phrase "Thinking of you" works well in this instance. It helps to know others thoughts are with us in the difficult times.
Lots of people do think about others who are mourning, but the thoughts never leave their mind. It only takes a few minutes to drop a note or make a call, and the benefits for both sides far outweigh the time consumed in showing this moral support.
I've urged those having stressful times in their lives to sit down and write about it. Use writing as one tool on the road to recovery. Today, I'm urging you to contact the friends who need you for one reason or another. A loving gesture of this kind will always be appreciated, even if it is never acknowledged. For sometimes, the person who is still mourning is unable to respond to the kindness of others. But they will most certainly remember.